This year I have sat with people in pain through their process of letting go. Some have been experiencing the birth pains associated with starting new projects, sewing new seeds and nurturing growth. While others have been honouring and paying witness to generations that have passed.
I am always in awe at the courage my clients have to face the challenges life has presented them with. As I sit and witness the accumulated evidence of the passage of not just one but many lives, it makes me reflective of how precious life is.
Going through papers and objects from past generations has also led me to muse on how our lives have changed so radically. I’ve been reminded of how, pre TV and internet, people would sit and read and write letters. Often, heading home after some contemplative moments with clients I’m struck by the contrast of how fast and furious our lives are now. How the gift of time seems so precious and taking time to write postcards and letters can feel such a thing of the past. It’s often only at times like Christmas that we send handwritten messages.
Let’s not lose the precious gift of time, reading and writing to one another.
And, putting back on my minister’s hat for a moment, might I also suggest an alternative commandment: ‘Leave not piles of things for your offspring to sort when you are gone’. Give them the gift of their future and leave them with just a chosen selection of treasures to remember you by rather than piles of clutter.
You could read The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family from a Lifetime of Clutter if you need a little more encouragement. But take it from me, it’s hard to make decisions about our own stuff, let alone the possessions of a loved one you are grieving.
Finally, don’t forget that decluttering is as much about connecting to what really matters to us as it is about making space for the future. And remember that letting go can be a time for reflection, appreciation and celebration. Our need to acknowledge the meanings and connections our possessions can represent is the reason I included the Memories set of cards in the Home Declutter Kit. Some things really need to be let go with a blessing or lighting a candle.